Well, it came to pass. Henry got an orange today and was sobbing as he told me about it. Of course I don’t want to see him sad, but it’s good that the consequence of not being able to attend movie night at church on Friday seems to be a meaningful one. We had a good talk last night about choosing behavior, one that Timon and I hoped would stick with him today. I also sent him off to school with some encouraging words. He told me a little bit ago that he tried to not talk so much today. I thanked him for being aware of himself and let him know that I was sorry that he would miss movie night because he was looking forward to it. Poor kid. Learning self-control is a long battle. I know I’m still figuring it out!
tune it with your face!
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3 comments:
Ah, poor Henry. But you guys are doing the right thing with the follow through. Have you tried giving him something else to do when he feels like talking in class (or whatever is getting him the oranges)? I don't know, like making a fist or tapping his fingers on his legs or something? Just to direct that energy somewhere else. I know it can be hard for kids to stop and easier for them to redirect.
It makes you want to cry, right? Because it's at that moment that you, as a parent, as a good parent, is faced with doing something that you don't want to do. Something that is necessary to your son's development, but something that sucks nonetheless. I'm glad to hear that he's trying though...awareness is half the battle with boys, I swear!
I just read Jen's comment too...some kids wear a rubber band on their wrist and snap it (lightly) when they need to refocus. I've also heard of stress balls too.
You may want to see if his teacher will change his seat if the problem is happening in the same place or with the same people every time. Just that works wonders in some cases.
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